【心靈成長】全世界都在追捧 E 人？別被 MBTI 綁架：其實我們都在 I 與 E 之間切換 (PERSONAL GROWTH)

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不知道從什麼時候開始，大家見面的第一句話不再是「食咗飯未？」，而是：「你係 E 人定 I 人？」

最近這股 MBTI 熱潮，好像把全世界的人都硬生生地分成了兩大陣營。打開社交媒體，鋪天蓋地都是在讚美「E 人 (外向者)」有多吃得開、多容易成功、多受歡迎。這讓很多被歸類為「I 人 (內向者)」的 Babies 感到很焦慮：「在這個喜歡大聲說話、慶祝外向的世界裡，性格內向是不是注定會吃虧？」

今天，我想跟所有覺得自己是 I 人、或者曾經有過社交焦慮的你，分享一下我自己的真實感受。

HAKME 的真實自白：其實我有「社恐」

很多人看我在 YouTube 拍片、每個星期做 Live 對著鏡頭滔滔不絕、還要管理一家公司，都會理所當然地覺得：「Hakme，你一定係個超級 E 人啦！」

錯了。To be totally honest，我其實有一點「社恐」。

我不是很喜歡那種一大群人在那裡喧嘩的社交聚會。對我來說，去應酬是會急速消耗我能量的。通常我去完這些 Social Events，回到家會覺得比一天沒睡覺還要累。我必須要回到家，自己一個人靜下來，不跟任何人說話，才能把能量一點一滴地重新「充」回來。我是在獨處中恢復能量的，而不是在人群中。

但我有沒有因為自己容易「社恐」，就覺得自己不適合做生意、或者覺得自己比不上那些長袖善舞的 E 人？絕對沒有。

別鬧了，你是一個「組合包」 (YOU ARE A PACKAGE)

我們最大的問題，是太容易全單接收別人給我們的標籤。

你要記住：你是一個 Package，而不是一個單一的英文字母。
其實每個人都是 I 和 E 的結合體，這從來都只是一個比例的問題。這個世界上，沒有人是 100% 的 E，也沒有人是 100% 的 I。

即使是極度內向的人，當對著自己最熟的閨密時，也會展現出超級 E 的一面，瘋狂說話；即使是極度外向的人，也會有想要安靜獨處的時候。

在生活中，你每天都在扮演不同的角色：你是別人的下屬、你是別人的老闆、你是媽媽的女兒、你是別人的姐姐。你有沒有留意過，你在扮演這些不同角色時，你說話的語氣、聲音、甚至氣場都會不同？

所以，你根本不需要強迫自己變成一個徹底的 E 人。你只需要在不同的情況下，把你那個 Package 裡最適合的一面拿出來，把當下的「角色」扮演好，那就已經非常足夠了。

HAKME 的派對生存策略：我是這樣做的

如果你跟我一樣，本質上是個 I 人，但又遇到一些非去不可的 event，而且還要自己一個人去，怎麼辦？

以前我也會害怕，但我後來發現，與其站在角落裡尷尬，不如運用想像力，給自己定一個策略。以下是我自己常用的兩招：

• 策略一：尋找「大喇叭」
  如果我走進會場，看到有一堆人特別多話說、特別熱鬧，我會走過去黏在他們旁邊。既然他們那麼喜歡講，那我就不需要說話，我負責微笑點頭聽他們講。在那個圈子裡，他們是 E，我是 I，Perfect match！我既參與了社交，又不需要消耗太多能量去想要說什麼。
• 策略二：尋找「邊緣人」
  如果我看到有人跟我一樣，靜靜地站在一旁看起來有點迷茫，我就會主動走過去跟他隨便聊兩句。因為對方看起來比我更內向、更安靜，在那一刻，為了打破僵局，我就會自然而然地變成那個主導話題的「暫時性 E 人」，而他就變成了 I。

你看，這就是適應環境的生存智慧。這不是虛偽，這只是我們在不同場合裡，靈活地調整自己的 I/E 比例而已。

✨ 給你的一點溫暖

致所有正在為性格標籤而焦慮的你：

傳媒和網絡很多時候是想「框架」你。別人說現在流行外向，那又怎樣？如果那些無謂的資訊會讓你產生容貌焦慮、身材焦慮、或者性格焦慮，請你勇敢地拒絕接收。

不要中計。不管這個世界突然決定要「慶祝」哪一種人，你都有你無可取代的位置。

專注發揮你原本就擁有的優勢，保護好自己的氣場。
Don’t let a label define and confine you.（別讓標籤定義你，更別讓它限制了你。）

大步向前走吧，你那個獨一無二的 Package，本身就已經足夠好！💪

【ENGLISH VERSION】THE WORLD IS OBSESSED WITH EXTROVERTS? DON’T LET MBTI KIDNAP YOU: WE ALL SWITCH BETWEEN I AND E (PERSONAL GROWTH)

I don’t know exactly when it happened, but the go-to greeting isn’t “Have you eaten?” anymore—it’s “Are you an E or an I?”

This recent MBTI craze seems to have forcefully divided the world into two camps. Open any social media app, and you’ll see endless praises for “E” (Extroverts): how they thrive, how easily they succeed, and how popular they are. This leaves many “I” (Introverts) feeling incredibly anxious, wondering: “In a world that loves loud voices and celebrates extroversion, is being introverted destined to be a disadvantage?”

Today, I want to share my true feelings with anyone who identifies as an introvert or has ever experienced social anxiety.

MY CONFESSION: I ACTUALLY GET SOCIAL ANXIETY

Because I film YouTube videos, host weekly Live streams talking non-stop to a camera, and run a company, people naturally assume: “Hakme, you must be a massive Extrovert!”

Wrong. To be totally honest, I actually have a bit of social anxiety.

I am not a fan of loud, crowded social gatherings. To me, networking and attending huge social events rapidly drain my battery. Every time I come home from these events, I feel more exhausted than if I had pulled an all-nighter. I must go home, sit in absolute quiet, and not speak to anyone just to recharge my energy drop by drop. I recover my energy in solitude, not in crowds.

But did I ever look at my “social anxiety” and conclude I wasn’t cut out for business, or that I couldn’t compete with those smooth-talking extroverts? Absolutely not.

COME ON, YOU ARE A “PACKAGE”

Our biggest problem is that we blindly accept the labels people hand us.

Remember this: You are a Package, not a single alphabet letter.
Everyone is a combination of I and E; it has always been a matter of ratio. In this world, no one is 100% E, and no one is 100% I.

Even the most introverted person will show a “super E” side and talk endlessly when they are with their best friends. Even the most extroverted person has moments where they crave peace and solitude.

Think about the different roles you play every day: you are someone’s employee, someone’s boss, a mother’s daughter, a sister. Have you noticed that when you play these different roles, your tone, your voice, and even your aura shift?

Therefore, you don’t need to force yourself to become a complete E. You just need to pull out the most suitable side from your “Package” for the situation at hand and play that “role” well. That is already more than enough.

HAKME’S PARTY SURVIVAL STRATEGY: WHAT I DO

If you are like me, essentially an introvert, but you have an unavoidable event to attend, and you have to go alone—what do you do?

I used to be scared too, but I later realized that instead of standing awkwardly in a corner, it’s better to use your imagination and set a strategy for yourself. Here are two moves I personally use:

• Strategy 1: Find the “Megaphones”
  If I walk into a venue and see a loud, talkative group, I will walk over and stick right next to them. Since they love talking so much, I won’t need to say a word; my job is to smile, nod, and listen. In that circle, they are the E, and I am the I. Perfect match! I get to participate in the socializing without draining my energy figuring out what to say.
• Strategy 2: Find the “Outsider”
  If I see someone standing quietly on the sidelines looking as lost as I feel, I will proactively walk over and casually chat with them. Because the other person looks even more introverted and quiet than I am, in that moment, to break the ice, I will naturally become the “temporary Extrovert” leading the conversation, and they become the I.

See? This is the street smarts of adapting to your environment. It’s not being fake; it’s simply us flexibly adjusting our I/E ratio in different situations.

✨ A GENTLE REMINDER

To everyone feeling anxious about personality labels:

The media and internet often want to “box you in.” People say being an extrovert is the trend now—so what? If those useless pieces of information give you appearance anxiety, body anxiety, or personality anxiety, please be brave enough to reject them.

Don’t fall into the trap. Regardless of what “type” of person the world suddenly decides to “celebrate,” you have your own irreplaceable place.

Focus on leveraging the strengths you already possess, and protect your own energy field.
Don’t let a label define and confine you.

Step forward boldly—your unique Package is already good enough! 💪