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人生沒有說明書：給正在迷惘、怕做錯決定的你
「30歲轉行會不會太遲？」
「在同一個行業轉了幾次工都發覺不太合適，現在想再讀書轉個方向，可以嗎？」
這是我在 Live 裡面收到的一位 Baby 的問題。
其實，我想對這位 Baby，還有所有正在經歷迷惘的你說：年齡真的只是一個數字。
人家 80 歲都可以去學寫code，30 歲想轉行，絕對是一件小事。
我們從小到大接受的教育，好像總是教我們要「看對錯、計得失」。這導致我們長大後，面對人生的分岔路口，總是非常害怕做錯決定。
但其實，我們需要換一個角度去想。
📖 人生是沒有說明書的 (Life Doesn’t Come With a Manual)
買電器有說明書，但做人哪有？
遇到人生難關時，你不可能打開一本書，翻開目錄，查一下「遇到這個問題該按哪個掣」。沒有人能按個 A 加個 B，就直接給你一個 C 的標準答案。
我們大家都是邊走邊學，邊發掘邊做。人生本來就是不斷的 Trial and Error (試錯)。
如果不嘗試，你怎麼知道那條路是否正確？你嘗試過幾份工作覺得不適合，那恭喜你，你至少已經「試了」，清楚知道自己不喜歡什麼。然後你便可以慢慢剔除那些不適合的選項，修正軌道，向你真正想去的方向進發。
Hakme 的真實自白：我也經常做錯決定
作為 Hakme Beauty 的創辦人超過 10 年，你以為我是因為「做了所有正確的決定」才走到今天的嗎？還是你以為，我是因為「害怕做錯」而步步為營？
都不是。
我做決定，通常是基於當時僅有的資訊和環境去衡量利弊。有時候，我能在頭腦清醒時做決定；但也有很多時候，當無數的問題同時向我開火時，我是在一個「腦霧」的狀態下做決定的。
但我依然會做決定。 因為我知道，如果我不做決定，我的團隊、我的公司就無法向前走。
OK，很多時候，事後我會發現：「原來這是一個不太好，甚至是很差的決定！」
但結果呢？沒有人死掉。我還在這裡，客人還在這裡，團隊也還在這裡。我承認這些所謂的「錯誤」，然後立刻去糾正它。
就在最近，同一個星期內，有 5-6 件事同時出錯。我坐在辦公桌前，心裡想：「OMG！我不敢相信我竟然做了那些決定！我把公司置於風險之中！我差點就搞砸了！」
但我有沒有坐在那裡自責好幾個小時？沒有。
也許我給了自己 1-2 分鐘去消化和接受這些驚嚇，但我沒有沉溺其中。
我接著做的事，是提醒自己：「Hell, 我手上又沒有一本商業成功說明書！」
現在我知道錯了，我學到了教訓。那我們就去糾正它、填補漏洞，讓我們變得更強大、更健康。
❌ 為什麼我們要擁抱「失敗」？
我跟很多人聊過，發現大家最大的內耗來源就是「怕做錯事」。
但如果你將 “Failures” 視為學習的一部分，那其實真的沒什麼大不了。
遇到難關，你可以看書、聽人說話、吸收知識，把別人的經驗儲存在大腦裡。到你需要用的時候，拿出來加上自己的分析去試試看。
試了，失敗了，別擔心。修正它，爬起來，再來過。這才是一個人能不斷進步的關鍵。
鍛鍊「做決定」的肌肉
不要「騎牆（猶豫不決）」，因為騎牆是最浪費時間和心力的。
你可以從日常生活做起，從小事開始練習：我們每天要做成千上萬個決定（穿什麼衣服、吃什麼午餐），學會快速而精確地做小決定。
當遇到大決定時，問自己一句話：
「萬一這個決定做錯了，天會塌下來嗎？」 (Is it gonna be the end of the world? It’s not, right?)
只要不是關乎生死、不影響別人的大問題，就勇敢去做！
✨ 給你的一點溫暖
致所有正在迷惘的你：
我們都不完美（完美也很無聊）。如果你能原諒別人犯錯，為什麼你不能原諒自己，然後繼續前行呢？
不要被年齡限制，也不要被外界所謂的「正確路線」給框住自己。
對自己說：「人生是沒有說明書的。我邊學邊走，邊做決定，然後再修正。」
你正在做一個正面的改變，不要害怕，大膽走下去吧！💪
🎥 想聽我親口分享？去片！(Watch the full Coffee Chat):
【English Version】Life Doesn’t Come With a Manual: For Those Afraid of Making the Wrong Choice
“Is 30 too late to change careers?”
“I’ve changed jobs a few times in the same industry and realized it’s not for me. Can I study again and change direction now?”
These were questions I received from a Baby during a recent Live.
To this Baby, and to anyone feeling lost right now, I want to say: Age is just a number. You can do whatever you want, at whatever age.
People learn coding at 80; changing careers at 30 is absolutely no big deal.
Growing up, we were taught to always look for “right or wrong,” to calculate every gain and loss. As a result, when we reach a crossroads in life, we are terrified of making the wrong decision.
But we need to flip this mindset.
📖 Life Doesn’t Come With a Manual
When you buy an appliance, you get a manual. But where is the manual for life?
When you hit a roadblock, you can’t just flip to an index and find the exact steps to solve your specific problem. Nobody can press A and B to give you a standard answer of C.
We are all just learning as we go, discovering as we do. Life is inherently about Trial and Error.
If you don’t try, how do you know if a path is right for you? If you’ve tried a few jobs and disliked them, congratulations! At least you “tried” and now know what you don’t want. From there, you can eliminate the bad options, course-correct, and move toward where you truly want to be.
My Confession: I Make Bad Decisions Too
I have been the founder of Hakme Beauty for over 10 years. Do you think I got here by making all the right decisions? Or do you think I am just terrified of making bad ones?
The answer is neither.
I make decisions based on the current information and circumstances. Sometimes my mind is crystal clear. Other times, my mind is foggy because a million things are firing at me all at once.
But I make decisions nonetheless. Because I know that if I don’t, my team and my company cannot move forward.
OK, many times, I find out later that it was a “not-so-good” or even “bad” decision. But guess what? No one dies. I am still here, our customers are here, and my team is here. I acknowledge the mistakes and rectify them immediately.
Just recently, 5 or 6 things went wrong in the same week. I literally sat at my desk and thought: “OMG!! I couldn’t believe I made those decisions or hadn’t closed certain gaps! I put the company at risk! I almost cost it!!”
But did I sit there and blame myself for hours? No. Maybe 1-2 minutes to digest the shock, but I didn’t dwell on it.
The next thing I did was remind myself: Hell, I don’t have a business success manual!
Now I know. Now I have learned the lessons. Let’s rectify the situation and close the gaps so we can grow stronger and healthier.
❌ Why We Must Embrace “Failure”
I’ve spoken to many people, and I realized our biggest source of internal drain is the “fear of making mistakes.”
But if you see “failures” as part of learning, it’s really no big deal.
When faced with a challenge, you read, you listen, and you store other people’s experiences in your brain. Then, when the time comes, you apply your own analysis and try.
You tried, you failed? Don’t worry. Fix it, get up, and try again. That is the only way to progress.
Flexing Your “Decision-Making” Muscle
Stop sitting on the fence. Hesitation is the biggest waste of time and energy.
Practice making quick, precise decisions on small, daily things (what to wear, what to eat).
For the big things, ask yourself:
“Is making the wrong decision gonna be the end of the world? It’s not, right? It’s not.”
As long as it’s not a matter of life and death, and you aren’t hurting anyone, be brave and do it!
✨ A Gentle Reminder
To everyone feeling lost:
We are not perfect (and perfect is boring). If you can forgive other people for their mistakes, why can’t you forgive yourself and move on?
Don’t let age restrict you, and don’t let society’s “correct path” box you in.
Tell yourself: “Life doesn’t come with a manual. I will learn as I go, make decisions, and course-correct along the way.”
You are making a positive change. Don’t be afraid. Walk boldly forward! 💪
