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如果人哋都覺得你得，點解你要覺得自己唔得？
我相信我們大部份人，當遇到突如其來的機會時，第一反應往往是懷疑自己的能力：
- 升職？ 「吓？我覺得我勝任唔到喎！」
- 參加比賽？ 「吓？我覺得我無其他人咁有天份！」
- 新 Project？ 「吓？我從來未做過，點識做呀！」
這種自我懷疑 (Self-Doubt) 的聲音，是不是很熟悉？
被選中的小孩 (The Chosen Kid)
記得小學時，學校有很多比賽，但無小朋友想花時間練習（大家都想玩，誰想做多份工？）。
於是老師唯有指派人選，而十次有八次，他們都指派了我！
- 我鍾意嗎？NO！
- 我想贏嗎？NO！
- 我有 Say No 嗎？Not really (個心講咗一萬次 No，但口講唔出)。
我就這樣硬著頭皮去做。當時我覺得這些比賽有用嗎？完全不覺得。
甚至連我爸爸都曾經自豪地問我：「學校係咪無其他學生？」😂 情況就是這麼誇張！
不想做 Team Lead 的我
快轉到我不久前的一份工作。
有一天老闆對我說：「我們會給你一個 Permanent Position，但條件是你需要帶領一個團隊，工作範圍會比以前大。」
我喜歡帶 Team 嗎？Hell NO！
我一直很享受做一個 Individual Contributor (獨立貢獻者)，因為無人能影響我的表現，一切都在我掌控之中。
我有 Say NO 嗎？哈哈，當然又是心裡 Say 了幾次，但口裡說：「我從未帶過 Team，但我會試試！」
就在正式上任前，恐懼襲來。我開始懷疑自己順水推舟的決定是否正確。
突然，心裡有一把微小的聲音說：
「如果別人都看到你的潛質，為什麼你自己看不到？」
相信別人的眼光
就在那一刻，我明白了。
那把聲音給了我需要的力量、信念和自信。
機會正在敲門，是的，我可能沒做過，是的，我可能會徹底失敗。
但沒有人天生就懂所有事，我們都是邊做邊學。
就算真的失敗了，或許會很難看，或許感覺很恐怖，但它不會殺死我們！
它只會讓我們變得更聰明，下次嘗試時更有經驗，對嗎？
擁抱未知 (Embrace the Unknown)
現在，我終於學會了與機會共處。
每當機會來臨，我會欣然 Say Yes！
我把它視為一段旅程的開始，一個新章節。我保持好奇心，專注於**「我會學到什麼」**，而不是最後的輸贏。
因為學到的知識和經驗，是沒人能拿走的財富。當我這樣想，挑戰就不再那麼可怕，反而變得更值得期待。
下次當新機會來臨時，不要反射性地 Say No。
試著想一想：
「如果別人都看到了你的潛質，是不是其實只是你不想看到自己的潛質？」
共勉之。✨
【English Version】If They Believe in You, Why Don’t You?
I think most of us, when given opportunities, tend to doubt our own abilities first.
- Promotion? “Huh? I don’t think I can handle it!”
- Competition? “Huh? I don’t think I’m as talented as the next person!”
- New Project? “Huh? I have never done that before!”
Does this sound familiar?
The Reluctant Participant
When I was in primary school, there were always competitions, but no kid wanted to spend time practicing (we all just wanted to play!).
So, the teachers had to assign students, and 8 times out of 10, they appointed me!
- Did I like it? NO!
- Did I want to win? NO.
- Did I say no? Not really (I screamed NO in my heart but smiled face-to-face!).
I just got on with it. Did I find those competitions useful at the time? Not at all.
It got so ridiculous that my Dad once proudly asked me, “Are there no other kids in school?” LOL. It was that bad!
The Accidental Leader
Fast forward to my previous career. One day my Boss said, “We will offer you a permanent position, but you need to lead a team, and the scope is bigger.”
Did I like leading a team? Hell NO!
I had always enjoyed being an individual contributor because I was in control of my own performance.
Did I say NO to my Boss? Haha, maybe a few “Oh Nos” in my heart, but my official reply was: “I have never led a team before, but I will try!”
Voila. I got the job.
But just before my official start day, fear kicked in. I started doubting my decision to just “go with the flow.”
Suddenly, a tiny little voice in my heart whispered:
“If other people see your potential, why don’t you see it yourself?”
Finding Faith in Opportunity
Right there, I got it.
That thought gave me the strength, faith, and confidence I needed.
It’s an opportunity knocking on my door. Yes, I might not have done it before. Yes, I might fail miserably. But no one is born with all the knowledge; we all start somewhere, and we all learn as we go.
And if we fail badly? It might feel horrifying and look messy, but hey, it won’t kill us!
It will only make us wiser and better equipped for our next attempt, right?
Stay Curious
Finally, I have come to terms with opportunities. Whenever they come now, I gladly say YES!
I treat them as the start of a journey, a new chapter. I stay curious about what I will learn instead of focusing on the win/loss at the end.
When I learn something, no one can take that away from me. My wealth of knowledge grows with each opportunity. When viewed this way, challenges become much less daunting.
Next time a new opportunity comes your way, instead of a reflexive “No,” try asking yourself:
“If someone sees the potential in you, is it actually YOU that refuses to see the potential in yourself?”
